been there. sure some people are cut out for it more than others. but low selfesteem doesnt do well with high selfesteem. low selfesteem needs attention and validation and to be mindread.

a relationship is close to impossible with an avoidant person if the context is not favorable. you have to understand just how draining it is for both of you. if and correctly asses if u can make it work
i was in a relationship for 3 years of consistent work from both sides, and it still ended up with distance and detachment.
the avoidant needs to get better . this is not a fixed state u can make work, its a healing process